A comment from another member of the
Deeper Life Bible Church to the friend who attended the wedding and wrote a
defense of Love Odih [HERE] got
me thinking if people may be blaming this couple unnecessarily. As much as I
searched however, I could not find a venue for the wedding. If it turns out
that John Kumuyi and Love Odih are no more deeper life members, and did not wed
in the Deeper Life Church, dos that make everything OK? Read on for the
rebuttal.
Dear Friend-of-the-Couple,
You have done well, to an extent, in defending your friends. However, your write-up clearly shows that you understand little or nothing of the grievances expressed by members and non-members alike of the renown Deeper Life Bible Church.
Just like the new Jerusalem seen by John the beloved in Revelation 21:2 is "adorned for her husband", Love Kumuyi was beautifully adorned on the day of her wedding to John Kumuyi. BEAUTIFULLY. Nevertheless, considering the fact that the marriage committee of DLBC Nigeria (which, of course, is the origin & model of all DLBC marriage committees worldwide) strongly opposes certain things in our appearance during/the conduction of wedding ceremonies in the church, we have the natural tendency to be confused.
Usually, brides who wish to wed in DLBC are expected to sew a wedding gown made strictly of satin material. See-through styles like a netted sleeve, which tends to add a form of beauty to the gown as we see in Love's case, is a complete no-no. You wanna use a ready-made wedding gown? That means you don't wanna wed in a Deeper Life Bible Church. Is it because it is sinful to do so? Not at all but the ancient 'standard' of the way our brides dressed during weddings in DLBC would be seriously altered if we did so, according to the MC members. Moreso, many of them regard such gowns as 'worldly' so forget it.
Using a veil in DLBC weddings is not an option. We are expected to have our heads completely covered. That is what we stand for and we have been abiding by this since the inception of the ministry. The only difference is that turbans are no more in vogue. Moderately fashionable scarfs are allowed but no veils or hats.
Make-up? Don't even go there.
Using flashy vehicles or decorating the car you're using on your wedding day is strictly prohibited. Plus, the father of our brides don't usually walk them down the aisle. (Hello-oo? Seriously???) It's just not allowed by the DLBC MC.
Cakes are not to be displayed in our wedding ceremonies. It's a serious offence to the MC. A show of worldliness, in fact. No kidding.
Many intending couples have expressed their desire to do otherwise but have been refused. Thus, some who feel that these rules are too rigid and unnecessary, have conducted their weddings in some other Bible-believing church, & have returned to DLBC as members.
The couple did well in honouring their parents by wedding in their church. But one would naturally expect that any couple - be it the son of the GS himself, or the daughter of a national overseer in the church - would abide by these 'rules' since they are the rules of DLBC & it was their desire to wed therein. The Kumuyis didn't abide by these rigid rules. Hence the queries: Are there separate rules for church leaders' children who wish to wed in DLBC? Or is there now a new standard of dressing for intending brides? If yes, whatt changed exactly?
These are the many questions that trouble our heart, dear friend of the couple.
God bless you.
You have done well, to an extent, in defending your friends. However, your write-up clearly shows that you understand little or nothing of the grievances expressed by members and non-members alike of the renown Deeper Life Bible Church.
Just like the new Jerusalem seen by John the beloved in Revelation 21:2 is "adorned for her husband", Love Kumuyi was beautifully adorned on the day of her wedding to John Kumuyi. BEAUTIFULLY. Nevertheless, considering the fact that the marriage committee of DLBC Nigeria (which, of course, is the origin & model of all DLBC marriage committees worldwide) strongly opposes certain things in our appearance during/the conduction of wedding ceremonies in the church, we have the natural tendency to be confused.
Usually, brides who wish to wed in DLBC are expected to sew a wedding gown made strictly of satin material. See-through styles like a netted sleeve, which tends to add a form of beauty to the gown as we see in Love's case, is a complete no-no. You wanna use a ready-made wedding gown? That means you don't wanna wed in a Deeper Life Bible Church. Is it because it is sinful to do so? Not at all but the ancient 'standard' of the way our brides dressed during weddings in DLBC would be seriously altered if we did so, according to the MC members. Moreso, many of them regard such gowns as 'worldly' so forget it.
Using a veil in DLBC weddings is not an option. We are expected to have our heads completely covered. That is what we stand for and we have been abiding by this since the inception of the ministry. The only difference is that turbans are no more in vogue. Moderately fashionable scarfs are allowed but no veils or hats.
Make-up? Don't even go there.
Using flashy vehicles or decorating the car you're using on your wedding day is strictly prohibited. Plus, the father of our brides don't usually walk them down the aisle. (Hello-oo? Seriously???) It's just not allowed by the DLBC MC.
Cakes are not to be displayed in our wedding ceremonies. It's a serious offence to the MC. A show of worldliness, in fact. No kidding.
Many intending couples have expressed their desire to do otherwise but have been refused. Thus, some who feel that these rules are too rigid and unnecessary, have conducted their weddings in some other Bible-believing church, & have returned to DLBC as members.
The couple did well in honouring their parents by wedding in their church. But one would naturally expect that any couple - be it the son of the GS himself, or the daughter of a national overseer in the church - would abide by these 'rules' since they are the rules of DLBC & it was their desire to wed therein. The Kumuyis didn't abide by these rigid rules. Hence the queries: Are there separate rules for church leaders' children who wish to wed in DLBC? Or is there now a new standard of dressing for intending brides? If yes, whatt changed exactly?
These are the many questions that trouble our heart, dear friend of the couple.
God bless you.
Credits to Myne
Whitman
BE MINDFUL OF ETERNITY
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But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men's matters. (1 Peter 4:15 KJV)
- Ibikunle Farajimakin
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN!
What is this ‘posting’ and ‘sharing’ of John’s wedding pictures all about? To you who either posted or shared, what was your motive? What message were you trying to pass across. Is that your own message of the cross? Is that the mandate that Christ gave you? A lot of tracts bearing the message of salvation are lying all about with no one to post on FB. So also are posters and handbills for church programmes. Only a few post these. But you have all the time in the world to post pictures and pass unguarded comments. What has caused others serious heartbreak is what you are busy jesting about. Until now I never knew that John was and is the Messiah of many (or why would he suddenly become the object of both national and international discussion); neither did I know that he was the author and finisher of the faith of a lot of professing believers.
Now you point accusing fingers and spite the message of the man of God on worldliness. While you are busy focusing on John, your own spirituality is depreciating by the seconds... Why will you go to hell because of another man’s mistake. Don’t you think that will be your greatest undoing? Friend, away with all the frivolities, carnalities and sensualities on FB. If your page is not promoting Christ and extending the frontiers of His coming kingdom, you had better deactivate it. Resign from the league of shallow-minded critics and enrol in the school of prayer. If you feel you don’t need prayers, then pray for others. There are millions of people in the world who need prayers, myself inclusive. Christ will soon come. If he meets you gossiping and backbiting, I’m sure He will not smile and say “well done, thou good and faithful servant.” Of course, there is freedom of speech but it is not freedom to run off at the mouth. Stay at your duty post (that is, if you have one) and stop meddling in other men’s affair. If you can’t help to ameliorate the matter, then don’t worsen it. And for you whose exalted position is that of gossiping, backbiting and slandering, and who don’t have any work to do for Christ, I urge you to find one and do it faithfully.
Then for you who are yet to marry, we will wait till your wedding day to see the ‘wonders’ you will perform. I’m sure you will like to make headlines, not only in the best and widely-read newspapers here on earth but also in hell!
Praying or gossiping? Rewards sure abound for both, but in different places.
A word, they say, is enough for the wise. (Beckie Gabriel)
Mind your business
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ReplyDeleteBe careful the words that proceed from your mouth to the man of God. He is not under you control and leadership.
The man of God is know both here on earth and in heaven for the truth of the word of God.
Do you know and understand more than him? do you hear from God more than him? please, I beg of you to free the man of God. It is for your own good because, you judgment does not hold water and can not stop him from getting to heaven.
Learn from the children of Israel, the murmur against the man of God (Moses) and at last, what happened, Moses died and God Himself buried Moses and he is with God in heaven because the new testament confirmed it when Jesus went with James and John to the mount of Transfiguration, they saw "Moses". What about the rest of the children of Israel, Only two escaped (Caleb and Joshua) the rest died in the Wilderness. Be careful (Okonkwo Emmanuel)
Ezy lagos: I belive alone in God judgment pls u people should try to mind ur bussines 4 them to be happy and enjoy their marriage... Wishing u happy married life to the fullest amen
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